FOOD FOR THE SOUL

                 When cooking you want to make sure you have all of the cooking utensils and cookware that you need. So lets talk about cooking in a clean kitchen free of germs and other bacteria. I'm pretty sure we have all been in some past “situation ships” or “relationships” which ever you choose to call it, but these “ships” changed the people who we once were. We have all heard that you shouldn't bring old baggage into a new relationship. So we all should do some deep soul searching and cleansing before entering into a new “ship” but especially a blended family “ship”. When it's a blended family type of relationship not only are the two adults involved affected by any issues or drama but there are little people(the child/children) involved too.I call children little people because people often dismiss the the opinions and feeling of children by not acknowledging that even though they are younger they are still people at the end of the day. When considering whether or not you should begin bonding with children that have experienced the separation of their biological parents you have to be 100% sure that you are ready because you don't want to give this child the memory of another person leaving them if things don't work out between you and their parent. So look deeper than I really like this person and the kid/kids are cool too.

 Now if you deeply feel that this may be the person/family for you then COMMUNICATION AND PATIENCE is key. Both you and your new love interest should be on the same page. You guys have to not only know each other's dreams, hopes and aspirations but more importantly the two of you must be in tuned with each others fears, worries and concerns. Talk about the paced and direction that both of you would like the relationship to flow. If one or both of you are still working through some past baggage then there may be a small difference of opinion which will require PATIENCE to work through. Now realistically this will take a lot of work on behalf of both of the adults in this new blended family but the perc is that the child or children will see an example of healthy, effective  COMMUNICATION and UNDERSTANDING. This will begin to resonate in all aspects of their life, whether it be problem solving with their new found siblings or working out confrontations in school. I know that was a lot but the biggest part of this post that we should walk away with is that, open and consistent COMMUNICATION is the only way the two of you will be able to have the PATIENCE to help each other unpack the past baggage that we ALL have. 

Happy blending until next time guys!